#2. The “MMI” Meetings

“Thus we are busy people just like all other busy people, rewarded for the rewards which are rewarded to busy people.” 

– Henri Nouwen, from The Way Of The Heart, p.22.

Top Secret

It is crucial to schedule time for ourselves. We know how important this is, but often more pressing issues get the better of our attention. It’s so easy to be drawn to busy-ness. But if our development is prized, we must devote a portion of our time to it. If we left it to, “I’d catch up on it when I get the time,” or “I’d squeeze so time in-between my work,” chances are, you won’t have the time. (See Cal Newport’s take on deep and intense work.)

Here’s How:

In you weekly planner, schedule at least one hour of the week called “MMI” Meeting (Me-Myself-&-I). You don’t have to explain to others what this stand for. If you can, get away your usual office space (“where are you going,” asks the inqusitive colleague. You reply, “I got a meeting to attend.”). If you are in private practice, book yourself in at the least scheduled hour by your clients. This is your protected time towards self-development.

In this weekly hour of “MMI”, you’d devote towards one of the following things:

– Reading;

– Watching therapy videos of others;

– Reviewing your recordings of your session;

– Reflection of your recent sessions; and/or

– Take a walk.


What Not to do:

– Check your emails (in fact, do not leave your email browser on);

– Play with your smartphone;

– See more clients.


Write one hour into your weekly calendar, “MMI” Meeting

Once you have established your “MMI” Meeting in your schedule, resist the urge to over-ride this MMI hour. Busy-ness is the devil of development. As Henri Nouwen alluded, busy people, reap the rewards of more busy-ness.